Wednesday, December 25, 2013

The Brat versus The Nation Builder

Today is Christmas Day internationally and although I am not celebrating Christmas, I found myself raking the yard, washing clothes, cleaning and washing the car and some light cleaning. I was not amused by this. In fact these things were that last thing I wanted to do. I did all of this after I was worked at the Lioness Boutique booth until 4 am Christmas morning. A part of me wanted to be in bed watching television or sleeping. I wanted to do any or everything else except for what I did. A part of me was telling God my plight and another part of me did not want to complain. 

Why am I telling you this? Tonight I was updating the Lioness Boutique Facebook page and I was doing something completely unrelated when I got this word:

 "She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.  She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.  She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks." Proverbs 31:15-17

This word clicked my entire day into perspective. Here I was not just a woman but more importantly a woman of God and I was complaining about the processes that I had a go through to be molded into a nation builder. I did not understand the strength that was being planted in my soul by the rigors of the work that I have been doing or had to do. I read the verses and I saw that women are resourceful, we are nurtures, we are business women, we are financial controllers, in short we are strong and capable beings. In fact, the reason why this word is written is because God wants us to see the capabilities of a woman of God.

Often this modern society tricks us into believing that we are not whole. It programs us to believe that there is always something that we need to make us complete. So we often walk around believing that we are defective beings. Due to this we often spend more time focusing on what we need instead of what we are created to do. So today, I feel like a big baby who was complaining about growing up. So God I am sorry for being a spoilt brat. Thank you for opening my eyes to the power that women possess. So my friends which category do you fall in: Are you a Brat? Or Are you the Nation Builder?  

Monday, December 23, 2013

When Dreams Die..........

The Dream Dies

My readers would have known that I had all but given up on Lioness Boutique, this was partly because I was scammed by unscrupulous business associates. I made the decision to shut down the shop. I was fine with the decision. I had deactivated the Facebook page and locked up shop so to speak. Basically, I had moved on with my life. In my mind the dream was dead and rightly so.

 Almost a year later, the business was dead. I became a child of God (I prefer this term to Christian) and I started to pray to God for direction as to what my next step should be. In the middle of my purpose (a series of prayer to God and meditation) I started to receive queries about Lioness Boutique. This was after I had received another idea for another business and I was in the process of establishing that idea. Then, out of nowhere I started to get notifications on Google plus about a video that I had done for my blog, Lioness Rebirth, about how to sell on Facebook. This was a video that I had created a year ago and had totally forgotten about. To be honest, I was not aware the video had been left posted on my personal YouTube page.

New Life

The first time I became conscious that God was encouraging me to open Lioness Boutique again I was not amused. My exact words to God were "seriously God, Really?" In my mind I thought no way and I brushed the idea out off. However, God did not give up. The notifications kept coming in one form or another. It got to a point that I had to seek advice from my pastor’s wife. She confirmed what I knew God was telling me but did not want to accept. So, I went and digged up the dream and dusted it off.

Looking back now, I think the turning point came when God realized that I no longer had this crazy idea that I needed to take over the world with my brand and make lots of money so I could be happy. He realized that money was no longer what I thought my salvation would be. Now, in the scheme of things it was just a means to an end.

Being Blessed

I guess I am sharing all of this is because sometimes we have a dream that is so big that we think will save us and so we blindly give in and allow it to take over our lives. Then, it crashes and we feel dejected and lost. In all of this we need to understand that God does not want a dream to be our saviour because he is your saviour. So often he will allow a dream to die in order for us to put things into perspective.  Now, I understand that by allowing the Master to lead I will be right where I should be. 

Friday, December 6, 2013

Life's Lessons

I find myself trying to explain to my daughter of 7 years who Nelson Mandela was and what he represented to Africa and the world. It was interesting to explain the significance of the life of this man in words that she could relate to and remember. It was also important as a child of God to make the link to her of how God glorified Nelson Mandela's life because of the values that he represented. I dont know if she totally understood the magnitude of the message i was trying to convey but if there was one thing i wanted her to understand. It would definitely be that having the nature of God is not a curse  but a glorious blessing. The life of Nelson Mandela was proof of that.

Monday, December 2, 2013

Smart Cash and Big Miracles

Last year I teamed up with Campus Book Rentals (SEE POST) and this year it is my pleasure again to work with them. 

As I sat to write this post I began to reflect on my childhood. Why you might wonder. Well, when I was growing up textbooks were and still are expensive. So here in Jamaica mother's like mine came up with a system of sharing text books. I would pass my old textbooks to my younger sister, cousins, friends and neighbours and they would do the same to me. This was a very cost efficient system because over the years, my mom saved thousands. Now Campus Book Rentals has developed a similar system, only instead of lending your books for free you are able to make money in return. Yes, I did say you could make money using your used textbooks.  

This new programme is called RentBack. Basically, RentBack gives you the opportunity to make money that does not entail sweat or tears. All you do is sit back and send your used books that are in excellence condition to them. What makes this so great is that you are able to make two to four times more money than you would have made by just selling you books.

Here is how it works:

If watching that video made you smile with the thought of earning some extra cash. Then, you are not the only one smiling as a result of Campus Book Rentals and their RentBack Programme. As a result of these programmes thousands of children are smiling through Operation Smile. What is Operation Smile you might ask? Operation Smile is an international children's medical charity that provides safe and effective reconstructive surgery and other related medical care for children born with facial deformities such as cleft lip and cleft palate. Through these programmes you are able to contribute to making a child smile. When I think of a child’s smile I think of a solitary light in a dark room. In a child's smile there is wonder, innocence, pure joy and love. Just think with each textbook that is rented from Campus Book Rentals you are able to create a miracle by giving a child the wonder of a beautiful smile. So this Christmas, remember when you rent each textbook from Campus Book Rentals you are making a BIG DIFFERENCE.

Cleft Lip and Palate FAQ

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

POSITIVE WEDNESDAYS- Some Things are Just out of Your Control

Some things are just out of your control; however, how you react to these things are totally in your control. I just went back to work after having gastroenteritis, within a week after returning I could barely talk and now I am coughing all the time. My typical reaction to this would be to throw my hands in the air and drop everything. I would typically just feel pity for myself.

 How often do you allow something totally out of your control, just to control you? I guess what I am trying to say is often you cannot control what will happen to us in this life. We might try to control all of the moving parts, but can we really?

An analogy comes to my mind when I think of this. You are on a ship sailing in paradise and then your ship starts leaking. You try to stop the leak but then it starts to leak in another area of the ship. Once again you try to stop the leak. So it goes until the ship sinks with you trying to control something totally out of your control. Often we are so blinded by things that are out of our control that we totally miss the proverbial life boat. We miss the opportunities that are staring us right in the face.

So my friends, when things like these occur you need to mediate on finding your life boat. For me as a Christian, I find myself seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit. My answers normally come when I stop and put my desires and my fix it mentally to rest and open up myself to God’s plan.  In these times I get more than a life boat. The Holy Spirit provides a brand new updated ship.


Saturday, November 16, 2013

A Dream Killer

What happens when you think a door in your life is sealed shut and then it opens. What do you do? Do you walk through it or do you walk away?

Fear is a dream killer. It cripples you so that when that door finally opens you won't take that opportunity. How many open doors have you walked away from opportunities because of fear and self doubt?

Did you stop to think that only God can open certain doors in your life.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

What if???

What if you’re supposed to be doing exactly what you're doing now?

The Dream

I had this dream. My dream was so huge. My dream was what I thought I was supposed to be. My dream was what I was supposed to do. That was what I thought. I thought I was supposed to create a jewellery empire with the Lioness brand.  Now that think about it, I just have to laugh. All the time I was dreaming it did not occur to me that I was doing what I was supposed to do. Instead, I would spend my days complaining. I did not like my job. I felt miserable and I wanted to quit. I kicked myself for choosing that line of study in college. I wanted to turn back the hands of time and choose another profession.  I did not see that I was fulfilling my purpose by creating positive change in the lives of my students. I was so caught up in what I thought my dream job should be. I did not see that I had my dream profession already and that I was good at it, because that was what I was born to do.  All I wanted was the dream life that I had fabricated in my mind. I told myself that I was born to be an entrepreneur and what I was doing now was a pit stop on my way to glorious success.  In short, I totally missed what I had and what I was already doing.

The Realization

It took God to figuratively break my legs to show me that a business empire was not my destiny. Now, I realized that I would have been fighting a losing battle if I had continued on my path. This means my business would not have worked because that was not my ultimate purpose on this earth.  God had to show me my journey to where I am now for me to understand that I am not here (my job, my life, my blog) by chance. I realized that all the things I am doing now are things that stem from my purpose to create positive change.

What is the point? You might ask.

 The point is right now you could be looking at life like I was. Right now you may be unhappy, unfulfilled or just not satisfied, because society told you that your life should be glamorous and filled with butterflies. I am here to tell you that this is a lie.

Who says you are not doing what you are supposed to do?

Look at your life and your impact, could anyone else be doing what you are doing the way you are doing it?

Do you feel joy at the end of the day?
Do you find yourself joyful in the chaos?

Are you your true self in that moment?

 I will not preach because I am no preacher. After all, who am I but a woman with a computer sitting in a dark room sharing my experiences? But if any of these questions ring true to you; ask yourself, what if I am doing exactly what I am suppose to do right here, right now? Mediate on that and God will guide your path.     

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Writer's Block

Today's post will be one of my shortest posts. I have been trying to think of what I want to write about in my posts and I keep drawing straws.

Don't you just hate when you are experiencing writer's block? I do..... So, i will see you on the other side of Sunday. Hopefully, i will have a worthwhile post to share by then.

Happy Sunday Lion-HEARTS!!!!!  

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

In the Blink of an Eye........

I have been think how much life can change in an instant. After all, It only takes one minute for your whole world to turn upside down or for your world to just bloom like a sunflower on a beautiful day.

Monday, October 14, 2013

The Honey of our Lives

Honey will enrich and add subtle flavour to dishes such as casseroles, sauces and dressings. Honey can be used as a natural substitute for sugar in most recipes but as it is sweeter than sugar, less is needed. Similarly, as almost one fifth of honey is water, the liquid content of a recipe should be reduced by the same amount.

Honey with meat:-

Honey-cured ham or baked gammon coated with honey and mustard date back from medieval times.
Marinades containing honey and vinegar make meat more tender and succulent.
In a barbecue sauce, golden honey gives a distinct flavour as it caramelises.
Honey gives a delicious crispy coating on roast chicken.
Honey with vegetables:-

Just adding a small amount of honey can do surprising things for everyday vegetables such as honey glazed carrots.
Orange blossom honey is perfect when added to a spicy vegetable stir fry as the sweetness of honey counteracts the spiciness of chillies, peppers, garlic and spices.
Honey in salad dressings:-

Adding honey to salad dressings and sauces can enhance the flavour and give extra body.
Honey in desserts and cakes:-

Honey is great for keeping cakes and biscuits fresh and moist. It's also sweeter than sugar, so much less is needed to achieve the same results.
Today, honey is appreciated as an unadulterated, natural product, less processed than any other sweetening agent, and with fewer calories.


Honey Cleansing Scrub

Mix 1 Tablespoon of honey with 2 Tablespoons finely ground almonds and ½ teaspoon
lemon juice. Rub gently onto face. Rinse off with warm water.

Firming Face Mask

Whisk together 1 Tablespoon honey, 1 egg white, 1 teaspoon glycerin (available at drug
and beauty stores) and enough flour to form a paste (approximately ¼ cup). Smooth
over face and throat. Leave on 10 minutes. Rinse off with warm water.

Smoothing Skin Lotion

Mix 1 teaspoon honey with 1 teaspoon vegetable oil and ¼ teaspoon lemon juice. Rub
into hands, elbows, heels and anywhere that feels dry. Leave on 10 minutes. Rinse off
with water.

Skin Softening Bath

Add ¼ cup honey to bath water for a fragrant, silky bath.

Hair Shine

Stir 1 teaspoon honey into 4 cups (1 quart) warm water. Blondes may wish to add a
squeeze of lemon. After shampooing, pour mixture through hair. Do not rinse out. Dry
as normal.

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Sunday, October 13, 2013

DAY 21- Is it the End of the Road?

The 21 day challenge was the catalyst for me to start blogging again. As I have posted before, I had lost my voice. I was a ship on the waters with no direction. I was lost. I did not know it. I did not realize that I was lost until I started the challenge.

The 21 Day Challenge was a spiritual fast. It was not about abstaining from food. It was about abstaining from things that we place too much importance on.  So, for three weeks I have not watched my television. When I started the challenge, I honestly did not know if I would be able to not watch television for three weeks. Anyone who knows me knows that I love to watch my TV.  My television was my source of solace, my best friend so to speak. But, I was able to do without television for three weeks without even being tempted.  I had have not been on Whatsapp or face book (except for work related posts), no reading of the newspaper, no radio, no gossiping, and no negativity. I know it sounds crazy but I did it for three weeks.

In short, I tried not to do anything that would cause me not to focus on my aim. My aim was to focus on the word of God. I read my bible every day, I meditated on the word of God, I prayed, I read blog posts that were spiritually edifying, I went to church every chance I got (before this I had not been to church in about six years or more).  Basically, for the last three weeks I made God the centre of my life.

As a result of this, I started feeling lighter. I wanted to get out of bed in the morning. I did not dread going to work (my work environment is highly stressful). I did not argue or complain as much as I use to. I allowed God to do what he always does, move mountains. In the midst of all of this, I gained a sense of peace. So that, every day I woke up I wanted to do my best.

Lessons Learnt

In short, I guess I am saying that I have learnt that for far too long I have been majoring in the minor. I have been focused on the things in life that are not important. I have been vastly neglecting my spiritual life. I have been focusing on the external aspects of my life and totally disregarding my inner self. I have been so busy trying to be politically correct, trying not to offend, and trying not to be judged for my beliefs that I have swept them under the carpet. I have been trying to keep up to the pace of this 21st century fast food society that I forgot that everything will happen in the right time. I have been trying to fit into what I am expected to do and be that I forgot to be myself. I have been trying to have the American dream in Jamaica instead of asking myself what is my true purpose. So at the end of my 21 days, I can honestly say I get it now. I have realized that although the 21 day challenge is over. The journey does not end. It is not the end of the road. The road is just beginning.


Saturday, October 12, 2013

Finding Your Voice- Day 20

I literally just woke up from a nap. When I went to sleep I had no idea I would write a post today. However, I woke up with this post on my heart. So, here goes. I was at church today and I was flipping through a folder that I had purchased a year ago. I had written random poems in this folder and I found a poem I had written entitled, 'I Think I Lost My Voice along the Way'. In the poem, I reflect on the lost of my voice.

I wrote: “I think I lost my voice along the way/ I allowed the voices of the maddening crowd/ to drown out my honey soaked, love filled/ molasses, sugar sweet/ melodious sounds.”

I had completely forgotten I wrote the poem and to be honest I do not remember writing the poem. However, for a while I felt like I had lost my voice. When I refer to my voice, I am not speaking about the sounds that leave my mouth in the form of speech. I am talking about that power inside that is mixed with the essence of who I am. I am referring to the power that has enabled me to touch lives positively, the power that God has given me to fulfill my purpose. This is the voice I am referring to.

During the period I am talking about above. I had stopped blogging. For some reason or another, I could not get a chance to sit down long enough to write a blog post. I had work, I had a business I was starting, I had my daughter to take care of and I had to move. I had soooo many things going on at that time that caused me not to focus on me. Looking back I realized that these were some of the things that caused me to lose my voice. How many of us just lose ourselves, our voices by the virtue of just trying to do everything and be everything for everyone else.  How often do we try to be the best mom, best wife, and the best at everything we do? Often, in the process of trying to be the best, we completely lose us.

I have said this several times in various posts, when I first starting blogging I did not think about gaining followers or paid reviewed offers. I did not even know I would be any good at blogging. After all, I was one of the worst spellers in high school. My grammar was horrible. My friends did not get the whole idea of blogging and they discouraged me (that is a whole other blog post unto itself).So in short, the only thing I thought I had going for me was the fact that I love the written word.  I did not think I could inspire, but I just started writing anyway. When I started blogging, I wrote from a place of pain and truth. I wrote for me. It was my therapy. It was something I did because I felt compelled to write (Ironically, I hated writing when I started). In the process of writing; slowly but surely, my voice was being brushed off and polished. It was being aired and used. I found that my voice was touching people. What started has my therapy become a blessing for others. Through that process, I also became blessed.

So my friends, finding your voice is always about finding yourself. If your voice is the essence of you (your you-ness), then it is not about how loudly you can talk or how eloquent you are. It is about discovering who you are as a person and loving yourself for your strengths and also your weakness. It is about allowing your weakness not to overpower you but instead allowing them to be a beacon for someone else by your act of overcoming them.  Finding your voice is not about being prefect or being the best. It is about knowing who you are and spending time learning about yourself. It is about learning to be comfortable in your skin. So my friends, if you have not began your journey to finding your voice, there is no better time to start than now.

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Who Says You Are a Victim?- Positive Wednesdays

Who says you are a victim? No seriously, who told you that you are a victim? Yes, I am talking to you. I know that often it might seem like your life is totally falling apart but are you really a victim because of this. Oftentimes, the negative things that are happening in our lives are several learning curves. These are often the lessons we need to learn but we are too pigheaded to acknowledge them. So, does this mean you are a victim? No, you are only a victim when you declare that you are.  Yes, I said it. You are the one who is victimizing your own self. You’re the one who is speaking negativity and hopelessness in your own life.

I am dead tired but this post has been in my heart because this is something that I have been doing without even thinking about it. It is day 17 of my 21 day challenge and it has been a serious learning curve. I was in church on Sunday and right after communion and I was praying, out of nowhere, I was stung by a wasp. I kid you not. Immediately, I started saying to myself, why me. I went on, how can this happen? I was about to start pulling out the victim card when it clicked into focus. Why should I cry, worry or be the victim, when I can pray. So, I prayed and I forgot about the fact that I was stung. Do you know that my face was not swollen (this is unusual for me) and by that afternoon the pain was gone.

My experience just highlighted for me that we often claim and speak the wrong things into our lives. I know I have. If you think back, how many times have you spoken sadness and hopelessness into your own life by the nature of your own words? Therefore, it is like I said, you are victimizing your own life. So I will end like how I began, who told you that you are a victim?  Who did? Who really did?


Be Worthy

Be Worthy of Imitation

They say imitation is the greatest compliment, but are your actions worthy of imitation? We are all in some setting of leadership. Whether it be as a parent, boss, or friend we should constantly examine the example we are setting for those around us. Are you being a positive role model? Are you treating others in a dignified way? Be a cheerful and diligent worker, parent, and boss to those around you. Children, especially, are like sponges taking in your every action and word--they naturally want to be just like you. So be mindful of your word and deed, you never know who might be watching and silently learning what you are demonstrating. 

You must be careful how you walk and where you go, for there are those following you who will set their feet where yours are set.

- Robert E. Lee, Civil War General

                                                                         from Spark People-Daily Reflection

Saturday, October 5, 2013

Baking Soda Secrets

As long as I can remember, my mom had a box of baking soda in our home. However, I have never thought about using baking soda until a friend of mine mentioned how it helped to exfoliate her skin. She kept telling me about her morning skin care routine. Yet, my interest was not piqued until I saw her skin looking absolutely radiant. I was in awe. So, the next day I bought my first box of baking soda. 

Here is a list of ways you can use baking soda:

You can pour a teaspoon of baking soda unto a damp rag and gently exfoliate your skin. You will find that it leaves your skin nice and smooth. I was amazed at how smooth my skin felt.

You can pour four teaspoons of baking soda in an open container and place it in your fridge. Over time you will realize that your fridge will remain noticeably free of various odours that accompany various foods.

Brighten colours
You can add a handful of baking soda to your laundry and it will help to brighten the colour of your clothes.

Toilet cleaner
You can also sprinkle baking soda in your toilet and let it sit for one hour before flushing; it will remove the stains and odour from your toilet. You can scrub your toilet if necessary.

Friday, October 4, 2013

DAY 12- Just Breathe

Days 7-11 have been highly stressful at the end of these six days, I am exhausted and my child is not well. As I type this post I am in the midst of washing, cleaning and everything else so that I can take my child to the doctor as soon as she wakes. 

Through it all, I have learnt that in live there will always be confusion. There will always be that one person in our lives who deliberately choose to create chaos in our lives and there will also be circumstances beyond our control that will help to create.  The important thing to do in these situations is to breathe. Breathing often helps us to focus not on chaos but on what you really need to do. So in short, focus on what is important. 

When you start doing this, you will realize that if you focus on the chaos around you, often miss the bigger picture or the answer to your problem that is staring you in the face. Case in point, I was at work and I needed to print a document ASAP. Out of nowhere, my computer stopped picking up wireless and so I would not be able to email the document. As the minutes rolled by, I began to become frantic. Then, I started asking my co- workers to lend me a thumb drive. When no one did, I was at my breaking point, the tension was killing me. Then out of nowhere, a co-worker simply suggested that I could plug the internet manually to my laptop. The answer was right there smiling at me. However, I allowed myself to get catch in all the confusion and panic that I totally did not see the solution to my problem. 

So, my friends......just breathe       


Saturday, September 28, 2013

Day 6- Positive Thinking

There is no secret to The Secret. Positive thinking is so powerful it can totally transform your life.  Here are a few thoughts I want to share based on Positive Thinking.

Friday, September 27, 2013

Day 5- Traffic

I am almost at the end of my day and it has been a task and a half to get home. Traffic humbled me tonight. I wanted to get to church and instead I found myself sitting in traffic for two and a half hours. When I got to the church I saw everyone walking out. I did not even get to hear amen. Instead of being angry and annoyed (my usual practice) I went inside the church and told the pastor what happened. After sharing my ordeal, he prayed with me. If I had allowed traffic to piss me off to the point of anger and frustration I would have missed out on the simple point that it is never too late to pray for God's blessings and guidance.  

So I guess what I am trying to say is that traffic will always be in our life. It will be like an obstacle to the next best thing we want to do. The truth is we cannot escape from traffic, just like how we cannot escape the various obstacles that will be present in our lives. What we can do is make a conscious decision to choose how we react to all of the things that have been placed in our lives to frustrate and conquer us. We can spend our time getting angry and worked up at these obstacles or we can see them for all the possibilities we can achieve by taking a detour. 

Thursday, September 26, 2013

Day 4- Inside Out

We all know that a beautiful spirit creates a beautiful person. However, often we do not understand what that means exactly. We also seem to forget that we should all try to develop a beautiful spirit in all of us. In theory, I understood the concept of inner beauty; however, in truth I did not understand it at all. Let me explain what I mean, I remember last year my face started to break out. I would go to bed and wake up with a huge pimple that had developed overnight (I kid you not). This was hard for me to cope with or even understand because I never had to worry about acne at any point in life. Now, after many years after adolescence I had to deal with magical pimples that developed in my sleep. I tried to beautify myself with lotions and face creams. I even stopped looking in the mirror completely. I would go days without actually seeing my own face. Like I said, I did not take it well. 

But looking back now, I realize that the inner turmoil I was experiencing at that point in my life was just reflecting on my outside. Now that I am experiencing an overwhelming sense of peace and joy, that is what is reflected through me. So now even my tendency to be very impatient and annoyed is slowly dissipating. I have made the connection that these reactions often stem from how I feel inside. Therefore, how I react to situations and persons are a byproduct of how I am feeling physically and emotionally in that moment, in time. Now that I have made the connection.....I now see that gaining true beauty means nourishing your spirit with things that are of God and that are positive in nature.

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

DAY 3- Knocking Down Mountains

I had what Oprah calls an 'aha moment' this morning. I woke up feeling the pressures of the world on me. As I thought about the numerous tasks I had on my plate to complete, I felt a headache slowly starting to develop in my brain and with each passing moments I started to feel the pressures of the day mounting and mounting. That is when it hit me, why should I allow a mountain to fall on me and shallow me whole. I thought to myself, my God is awesome. Then it occurred to me, why should I worry when my God can move mountains. 

So, I immediately started to speak positive energy into my day. I started speaking positive energy into my whole approach to my problems. I started looking not at my problems but at how I can solve my problems. I started to tell myself that a mountain was there because I allowed it to be there. With each spoken word my mountain began to break away and turn into rubble. 

I realized that i had allowed myself to be placed in a position of stress and fear because of my perspective on the situations that faced me. How often do you create mountains in your life? 

''Faith is like a muscle once you start to use it, it will become stronger''    Lioness Rebirth     

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Day 2- Between a Rock and a Hard Place

I am sitting here looking on a blank screen trying to put into words how i am feeling and how my day went. It seems like there are no words to capture the essence of what I want to say or  the feeling I want to share.  It seems like a ten ton concrete block as fallen on me and I am trying to get from under it. What would have been a blissful day was tarnished by specks of gray, a mountain of paper work, a number of crushing news and a hectic journey home. 

Today reminded me that change is not easy. It is a process that comes from  constant work. It also remembered that at any point, life can throw you a curve ball. Often these curve balls are God's way of telling us to get off the bench and rise to the challenges that come our way.

Here are some quotes I want to share today..........

“The pain you feel today is the strength you feel tomorrow,
For every challenge encountered there is opportunity for growth.” - Unknown

“Three things you cannot recover in life: the WORD after it’s said, the MOMENT after it’s missed and the TIME after it’s gone. Be Careful!” – Unknown

"Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away from your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.” – Unknown

“Love what you have. Need what you want. Accept what you receive. Give what you can. Always remember, what goes around, comes around…” – Unknown

Monday, September 23, 2013

Day 1- A Calm Storm

I have to be reminding myself that this journey will result in purging my soul. It is not easy to make a conscious decision that your life must change for the better and as such there are some things that must go.....including persons. 

Therefore, the first day was a calm storm. I had a headache that just wanted to remind me that i should be feeling crappy and sick. At one point i was about the vomit. Instead of giving in to the storm raging in side me i decided to breathe and refocus my energy to the various tasks at hand. 

With this in mind, I experience a sense of peace and total reassurance that it all will work out and things will be great.  From that point on things slowly fell in place.


It only goes to show that every situation as the possibility to change for the better. It all depends on our perspective.

Sunday, September 22, 2013

The 21 Day Challenge

Tomorrow,  I am starting a twenty one day challenge of Becoming a Better person. This means no television, no radio, no negativity, no gossiping (not that  I normally gossip) and no Rap/ R&B/Dance hall music for twenty one days. The aim of this challenge is to develop and enrich my spiritual life. So, i decided to write a post for each day of my challenge. I hope you will join me on my journey

Thursday, July 11, 2013


1. Use good posture. Walk tall, look forward, (not at the ground) gazing about 20 feet ahead. Your chin should be level and your head up.

2. Keep your chest raised, and shoulders relaxed (shoulders down, back and relaxed).

3. Bend your arms in slightly less than a 90 degree angle. Cup your hands gently. Swing arms front to back (not side to side - arms should not cross your body.) Do not swing elbows higher than your sternum (breast bone). Swing your arms faster and your feet will follow.

4. Tighten your abs and buttocks.. Flatten your back and tilt your pelvis slightly forward.

5. Pretend you are walking along a straight line. Resist the urge to elongate your steps. To go faster -- take smaller, faster steps.

6. Push off with your toes. Concentrate on landing on your heel, rolling through the step and pushing off with your toes. Use the natural spring of your calf muscles to propel you forward.

7. Breathe naturally. As you walk, take deep, rhythmic breaths, to get the maximum amount of oxygen through your system. Walk fast enough that your breathing is increased yet you are not out of breath.
Common mistakes made by walkers... 

1. Do not over stride

2. Do not use too vigorous arm movements

3. Do not look at the ground

4. Do not hunch your shoulders

5. Do not carry hand weights or place weights on your ankles

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

The Versatility of Olive Oil

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If you think that olive oil can only be used in the kitchen then you better think again. There are so many ways you can use olive oil in your life beyond just cooking. Here are some great uses for olive oil:
·      Moisturize your skin – A small amount works well as hand lotion and helps cure cracked heels.

·      Remove stickers – Apply a few drops and spread over the sticker. Let it sit for thirty seconds and then the sticker should peel off easily.

·      Condition your hair – Apply to your hair after shampooing. Let it sit for twenty minutes and then rinse out for shiny, smooth hair.

·      Prevent hairballs – Add a few drops to your cat’s food to prevent hairballs and make their fur shiny.

·      Get off grease – If you have been working on the car an easy grease remover is just a teaspoon of olive oil!

·      Get rid of lice – Coat hair and scalp in olive oil and let sit for thirty minutes. Apply every day until lice are gone.

·      Lube – Got a squeaky hinge or a stuck zipper? Add a few drops of olive oil.

·      Recondition – Olive oil can be used to recondition wooden cutting boards and cast iron cookware.

·      Natural mascara – Dab on some olive oil to naturally darken and thicken lashes.

·      Shine stainless steel –Forget harsh chemicals. Just use a rag and a dab of olive oil to get stainless steel shiny once again.

·      Stop mosquitoes from spawning – Add some olive oil to standing water to keep mosquitoes out.

·      Condition leather – Olive oil works great for all types of leather.

·      Prevent rashes – Heat rash and diaper rash can both be prevented with a little olive oil application.

These are just a few of the many great applications olive oil can have in your home. It is truly something you want to keep stocked!

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This guest post is contributed by Debra Johnson, blogger and editor of She welcomes your comments at her email Id: - jdebra84 @

Saturday, January 19, 2013

D.I.Y. SUNDAYS.....How to Pick Up the Pieces after a Tragedy

We are never prepared for a tragedy like the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary. Or like the devastation caused by Hurricane Katrina. Or like the attacks on the World Trade Centers. Devastating, horrific events like these are rare, but they do happen. When they do, it is not just those who were directly affected who must learn how to survive and how to live life again. Even the spectators -- even those of us who lived hundreds or thousands away from the events -- can feel the same fear, grief, and despair that these tragedies can cause.
Fortunately, you can pick up the pieces after a tragedy and learn how to move on. Of course, the process will be different depending on how closely you were involved in the tragedy -- and if you were directly affected, you will need to do serious work with a counselor. However, these steps can help you start the healing process:
Don't Dwell on the "Why"
You will want to find answers to explain why a tragedy happened so you can make better sense of it. After the Sandy Hook shooting, people questioned the shooter's motivation, how mental health care treatment have prevented the tragedy, and of course, how different gun laws may have kept weapons out of the shooter's hands. After Hurricane Katrina, people questioned the evacuation procedure and the quality of the city's infrastructure.
Though you may want to question how the tragedy could have happened, answers will rarely be found. You will dwell on asking "why" but will likely never get the satisfaction of an answer. Therefore, you will not be able to move on. Don't focus on why the tragedy happened; focus on what you can do to heal.
Mourn the Loss
Even if you were not directly involved in the tragedy -- even if you were not present or do not know anyone who was present -- you may feel grief. You may feel grief for those who were lost. You may feel grief over a certain loss of "innocence" or hope on your part. You may feel fear, hopelessness, or despair.
Allow yourself to mourn that loss. Experience the grieving process so you can get through those feelings and begin healing.
Get Support
Find others who can understand what you are going through and can offer you support. You may want to find other survivors or others who were affected in a similar way by the events. Or you may simply want to surround yourself with family and friends who can offer you support.
If you have been more directly impacted by the tragedy, your support can be a counselor or group therapy. It is important to get the right kind of support to help you process your feelings and get on the road to healing.
Maintain Your Routine
It is important to continue with your "normal" life as much as possible. Instead of giving in to despair and falling into inaction, you should focus on maintaining your regular routine as much as possible. Get up and go to bed at the same time, eat meals, go to work, see friends, and get some exercise. If you don't try to do these things, you run the risk of allowing yourself to wallow in your grief and to become immobilized by despair.
Focus on Positive Action
You may feel angry or helpless after a tragedy because you feel like there is nothing you can do about what has happened. While you cannot change the past, you can focus on positive action to shape the future. You can volunteer with relief groups. You can work with advocacy organizations that are trying to bring about change. You can make a donation to a non-profit organization doing important work on a related issue.
By focusing on these positive actions, you can feel like you are doing something to prevent future tragedies, and that can help you in the healing process.
No one can ever be truly prepared for a tragedy. However, when a tragedy does happen, these steps can help you to pick up the pieces and begin again. Ultimately, you will make it through the healing process and learn how to live again.
Carmen Brettel is a writer and manager for In her spare time, Carmen enjoys gardening and volunteering at animal shelters.

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