Saturday, January 19, 2013

D.I.Y. SUNDAYS.....How to Pick Up the Pieces after a Tragedy

We are never prepared for a tragedy like the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary. Or like the devastation caused by Hurricane Katrina. Or like the attacks on the World Trade Centers. Devastating, horrific events like these are rare, but they do happen. When they do, it is not just those who were directly affected who must learn how to survive and how to live life again. Even the spectators -- even those of us who lived hundreds or thousands away from the events -- can feel the same fear, grief, and despair that these tragedies can cause.
Fortunately, you can pick up the pieces after a tragedy and learn how to move on. Of course, the process will be different depending on how closely you were involved in the tragedy -- and if you were directly affected, you will need to do serious work with a counselor. However, these steps can help you start the healing process:
Don't Dwell on the "Why"
You will want to find answers to explain why a tragedy happened so you can make better sense of it. After the Sandy Hook shooting, people questioned the shooter's motivation, how mental health care treatment have prevented the tragedy, and of course, how different gun laws may have kept weapons out of the shooter's hands. After Hurricane Katrina, people questioned the evacuation procedure and the quality of the city's infrastructure.
Though you may want to question how the tragedy could have happened, answers will rarely be found. You will dwell on asking "why" but will likely never get the satisfaction of an answer. Therefore, you will not be able to move on. Don't focus on why the tragedy happened; focus on what you can do to heal.
Mourn the Loss
Even if you were not directly involved in the tragedy -- even if you were not present or do not know anyone who was present -- you may feel grief. You may feel grief for those who were lost. You may feel grief over a certain loss of "innocence" or hope on your part. You may feel fear, hopelessness, or despair.
Allow yourself to mourn that loss. Experience the grieving process so you can get through those feelings and begin healing.
Get Support
Find others who can understand what you are going through and can offer you support. You may want to find other survivors or others who were affected in a similar way by the events. Or you may simply want to surround yourself with family and friends who can offer you support.
If you have been more directly impacted by the tragedy, your support can be a counselor or group therapy. It is important to get the right kind of support to help you process your feelings and get on the road to healing.
Maintain Your Routine
It is important to continue with your "normal" life as much as possible. Instead of giving in to despair and falling into inaction, you should focus on maintaining your regular routine as much as possible. Get up and go to bed at the same time, eat meals, go to work, see friends, and get some exercise. If you don't try to do these things, you run the risk of allowing yourself to wallow in your grief and to become immobilized by despair.
Focus on Positive Action
You may feel angry or helpless after a tragedy because you feel like there is nothing you can do about what has happened. While you cannot change the past, you can focus on positive action to shape the future. You can volunteer with relief groups. You can work with advocacy organizations that are trying to bring about change. You can make a donation to a non-profit organization doing important work on a related issue.
By focusing on these positive actions, you can feel like you are doing something to prevent future tragedies, and that can help you in the healing process.
No one can ever be truly prepared for a tragedy. However, when a tragedy does happen, these steps can help you to pick up the pieces and begin again. Ultimately, you will make it through the healing process and learn how to live again.
Carmen Brettel is a writer and manager for In her spare time, Carmen enjoys gardening and volunteering at animal shelters.

Friday, January 11, 2013



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Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Monday, January 7, 2013


On vacation with family

This is the view i woke up to. I LOVE IT

Yes that is me going for a walk. My six year old took the pic.

Sunday, January 6, 2013


Sometimes i think this blog was born out of a black hole. I started writing when my journey began to find me. As the blog grew so did i. Now it is two years and 43,438 page views later. This blog reminds me that in a desolate place hope can bloom and so I would like to thank all the great people i have meet as a result of this blog. I would also like to say thank you to all the brands, freelance writers and other bloggers who have graciously worked along side me through out these two years. Without ALL of your comments, guest posts, emails and support, Lioness Rebirth-The Blog could not be what it is today. So, THANK YOU for taking this journey with me.

I will leave you with the best words i can use to describe my journey so far. I hope they will inspire you too.

I did it!!!!!!

Friday, January 4, 2013

P.S. from Paradise

As i sit before the laptop trying to write this post, somehow i feel like the first day i started this blog. I wanted to write but there was some amount of uncertainty, anticipation, yet peace and calm. I guess, a feeling of, a sense of purpose was hovering around in the air. All of these feelings are present now.

So much as happened since i started this blog two years ago and so much as changed including me. If i were to be honest, i would say that my perspective on blogging as changed along the way. In that, i find myself sharing more life experiences than reeling out researched facts. If should go a step further, i would admit that life has got in the way. I find myself yearning to blog, however, with little or no time to do so.It is a sad fact but it is true.

If i should make a new year's resolution it would be to blog more and so  in this my second year of blogging; i want to reclaim my roots and provide constant posts. Lets see what happens.

I had to share. Happy new year from paradise!!!!!!
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