The 20th century concept of dating is like going to war or a winner takes all game of poker (i don't play poker). There are so many layers of deceptions, lies and reverse psychology that would make even Einstein's mind expload. All of this is enough to make a single female wonder if love is truly real.
I met a couple this past weekend. They have been married for 30 years, they gave me hope i told them. After all, i thought they waded through the bullshit (pardon my french), arguments and fights to last for 30 years. But my main issue with the dilemma of dating is what appears to be the total dead of monogamy. I am serious. It seems like everyone has someone on the side, in a closet, around the corner.......you get the drift. I must say my previous experiences have left me jaded. That picture of the fairy tale is fast going up in flames, with me trying like crazy to put it out.
After talking to my female friends, i realized that most of them have accepted the strong possibility that their mate might cheat. Their rule is ignorance is bliss, what i don't know wont hurt me. Another friend straight out said all man cheat, it is a given fact. My heart broke......if this is in fact true (i am not saying it is) then my chances of finding a monogamous mate is one in a million.
I refuse to believe it. I refuse to think that the chances of finding pure love in a mate is a naive dream. That the courtly love that is well documented in literature is now a relic destined to be a long faded memory. So i am single and fighting against the conventions of modern society. Maybe if i am lucky i can find the one in a million. Then again who needs luck when i have blessings.